Five tips to protect your mental health over Eid

Mental health does not take time off during Eid. While there are plenty of moments during this joyous occasion to savor and enjoy, many of us can also find Eid to be a busy and stressful time.

The stress of social obligations, the pressure to be happy, and the reminder of past traumas can all contribute to feelings of anxiety and depression. In a culture already compounded by mental health stigma, taking a step back to pause for breath, noticing how we are feeling and being kind to ourselves can help us to sustain our mental health and wellbeing throughout this holiday.

Follow these five tips adapted from research conducted by the Journal of Psychiatric Research to foster a healthier mental environment this Eid.

First, set realistic expectations

Setting realistic expectations for this holiday can be beneficial in reducing any looming stress. We often create stress to achieve unrealistic break goals, which can lead to disappointment and increased tension. Entering Eid with realistic expectations can be one way to combat the emotional swing and stress that many feel from the holidays. Remember, Eid is intended to be a celebration of completing the most pious acts, which are fasting and worship. Events have the meaning that we ascribe to them, and a few days each year cannot rectify the past or determine the future.

Second, avoid social comparisons

There is pressure to compare ourselves to others’ lives in today’s society, whether real or imagined. We consume images from movies, television and social media and compare our lives, our families and our circumstances to them. This is unfair because we are not getting a full view of the other aspects we are not seeing. The cultural pressure of outdoing your social circle makes people fall into a self-serving bias in which they overinflate their own accomplishments. As a result, it is vital not to compare yourself to others. Remember that what you are comparing yourself to is not a realistic comparison. By not comparing yourself to others, you can better insulate yourself from stress and feel more grateful for the things you do have.

Setting realistic expectations for this holiday can be beneficial in reducing any looming stress.

Third, stay connected

If you are struggling this Eid, reach out to those that you trust and can confide in — whether a therapist, friend or confidant. Attempt to stay connected and reach out to people that you trust. If you find yourself truly isolated, then use journaling and seek solace in the hands of Allah. Maintaining a connection with others can help to alleviate some of the symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Fourth, practice self-care

Self-care is of the utmost importance during holidays. Get good-quality sleep, take time to exercise by going for walks or by stretching, eat well-balanced foods and drink plenty of water. It can be easy to get caught up in eating the tasty seasonal foods (overloading on fried sambosa and caramelized sweets) and forget that self-care (such as quiet time for yourself) needs to continue even during the break season to maintain good mental health.

Fifth, set healthy boundaries

Setting boundaries has always been tricky when dealing with family — especially in a culture where family loyalty and obligations take precedence over much else. However, it is an essential component of healthy family functioning during Eid, and any gathering for that matter.

Often, the fear of being forced into uncomfortable situations due to the inability to manage boundary-setting causes feelings of anxiety. Family matters can quickly move into conflict, so it is crucial to have an idea of what you are going to say before the situation arises.

Having healthy boundaries helps to reduce anxiety and depression during the breaks. When members of a family can communicate respectfully and openly while being considerate of each other, the family can usually function in a cohesive manner and avoid conflicts that tend to loom during Eid festivities. Making your boundaries and limits known is an essential, albeit difficult, part of having an enjoyable time with your family.

The holidays can be demanding and with stress at its peak it is hard to stop and regroup. Being realistic, planning ahead and seeking support can help. With some practical tips, you can regulate feelings of stress and sadness and help yourself get through the holidays while caring for your mental and physical health.

Wishing you a healthy and happy Eid.

 • Sarah Haque is a medical student who conducts public health research and awareness campaigns.